Friday, January 22, 2010

Stand Up!

My Sweet Madeline at 2 weeks old.

Today is the National March for Life in Washington D.C. I have been listening and watching coverage on EWTN today.

I feel moved to share with you today. I normally do not use my blog for my political or religious beliefs. But this belief of life is one of human civil rights and the right to life for all humans.

All faiths, all colors, all people are joining together for life. When people say "It's a women's right to choose." I respond "A women's right to choose what? Death to her child?" Mothers are the life life to the unborn children not the source of death and dismemberment. The most innocent and quiet of our people are the unborn children.

I speak from experience. I became pregnant at the age of 19. Abortion was an option but I choose life for my daughter. Instead of holding a sign today that says "I regret my abortion" I hold the hand of my 12 year old daughter.

Yes, the other victims of abortion are the mothers and fathers. Abortion hurts them too. In my 12 years of pro-life work I've NEVER heard a women say "I don't regret my abortion". It's the complete opposite they regret it and wish they could go back and change their decision.

Today I pray for all those victims of abortion and the babies in danger of abortion. If you are pro-life please take a stand up for the most innocent and help stop the killing of our sweet babies. We must not allow our government to use federal dollars to pay for abortions. ABORTION IS NOT HEALTH CARE!


Murry Mayhem said...

I think even before your decision with Kate, you and I had a reason to feel this way. We were both adopted, and just as quickly, we could have been aborted. Not that we are any more at risk than another unborn child was, but we have always known that our birth mothers had a tough choice. I'm so thankful to God that they chose to let us live.

Frugal Jen said...

Alicia you are so right. Yes we both had birth mothers that could have easily aborted us. They are in the minority they chose adoption for us.

I forget I am adopted. I couldn't imagine loving biological parents more or different than I love my adoptive parents. They are just my parents regardless of blood.

Camily said...

I love this post. Very well said--and from experience. Beautiful.

Dawn said...

Jen, thanks for your honesty! I agree completely--abortion is not healthcare nor is it birth control!

Carrie said...

I couldn't agree more, Jen. I cannot fathom how many consider it their "right" to kill an innocent human being. How our arrogance must devastate God.

Anonymous said...

So many women don't know that the heart starts beating at 21 days...on a pregnancy calendar that's right around the time you find out you're "late". There are just so many other options out there today.

Your post was wonderfully put, thank you for being so courageous to take a stand on such an unfortunately hush hush subject. ;)

Michelle said...

I don't regret my abortion.

I do have a feeling you just don't listen to women whose experiences fail to validate your worldview.

Frugal Jen said...

Michelle, I will pray for you.

I've been there in the depths of hell, a teenager, unmarried, pregnant and scared with abortion as an option. I spent many hours weeping and in deep sorrow and fearful of how I could raise a child. I am truely sad for your choice. When and if the time comes that you reflect and regret your abortion there are many people that can help you.

Jennjilla said...

I applaud Michelle for standing behind her decision - I'm sure one she didn't make lightheartedly.

I'm adopted, and am so grateful my birth mother chose life and gave me the best gift of all - my parents. I, however, believe we should have a choice in life and if that become the option most workable for you, then you should be allowed to do it without fear. I pray always that people choose the gift of life and either raise that baby themselves or give the child to a family who otherwise wouldn't be able to have kids but I will respect those who made a different decision.

I guess it's all very situational for me - and in the end, it's God who we have to answer to and I think He's pretty forgiving so who am I to judge? I can understand your decision to have your daughter 12 years ago, and I can also understand the girl who couldn't.

Whew! Heavy subject....can we go back to pregnancy cravings or something? :)

Kim Venneman Cooper said...

Jen, your post moved me to tears. I have never been so touched by a pro-life believer until I met you. You radiate Christ's love through your eyes, your actions and your speech. You shed the tears on earth that our Lord Jesus and Blessed Mother shed in heaven for all of the unborn. Michelle will meet her little one someday in Heaven and the healing mercy of Christ will unite them with Him. All of the unborn have a purpose in this life. If for some reason the mother chooses to not give them life on earth, they still remain alive in Heaven. There work is great, even though unseen. Thank you for sharing you story with all of us and what a leader in our faith you are for Kate and all who know you. Speaking the truth on earth is speaking for Heaven above.

Beth said...

Thank you for being so open and sharing something so personal. I got pregnant (out of wedlock) and the father BEGGED me to have an abortion. That was not even an option for me. My daughter will be 5 years old in six weeks and I can not imagine my life without her. Unfortunatly, her father decided to step back into the picture after he was ordered by the courts to pay child support and he has done everything in his power to make our lives miserable. Still....I don't regret my decision.

Karyn @ Candarbry Garden said...

Hi Jen, I am the mother of 3 boys, now teenagers. My first was conceived in a non-relationship. I knew that to have him meant I would be alone. I chose to give birth to him, and in some ways, he saved my life. He is going to graduate from high school this year, and is one of the most amazing young men I have ever had the joy of knowing.
I did not learn my lesson though, I became pregnant two years later. This time, I married his father. He is 15, a freshman in high school. Growing daily and becoming a real man with values and opinions that make me proud.
During a really rough spot in our relationship, we became pregnant again, This boy is almost 13 years old, He is my "baby". Sweet and innocent. Your typical tweenager. Girls, homework, school, football, and DRAMA! My life is certainly full.
By todays standard, I could have aborted each one of these children.
Nobody would have batted an eye.
Nobody would have blamed me.
I would have been able to claim that God is forgiving.
I would have been able to say that I was justified.
BUT I KNOW That God is the author of life. It is God who opens the womb.
I could never have lived with myself if I had aborted these precious lives.
Thank you for this post.

Anonymous said...

Just because it's not your choice, doesn't give you the right to make the decision for the rest of the women in the country. And yes, there are those who are grateful to have the opportunity for an abortion. Think before you type next time, ok?

Frugal Jen said...

Anonymous, I am sadded that women are grateful to kill their unborn children. The womb should be the safest place on earth.

I reflected and thought very hard before writing this post. I don't apologize for writing this or being pro-life and trying to protect the most innocent children in this world.