A Must Read for Moms, My Eyes are Open

WARNING THIS IS CONTROVERSIAL!

MOMS please read!! It's time your eyes were opened. I was shocked to learn.

Let's talk ladies, candidly. This has nothing to do with being frugal or fabulous just an honest mom to mom talk, heart to heart.

I'm a 30 something mom of 3 girls. Back in the early 90's I enjoyed teen magazines such as TEEN and Seventeen. They had pop quizzes, make up and fashion tips. When the topic of sex was brought up it was all about waiting and abstinence.

Well it's 2012 and its changed. Don't be naive about what your daughters are looking at and reading. This is a copy of a Cosmo cover. Because of copyright I won't show the label.

UMMMM, yeah..... completely inappropriate even for me a 34 year old women.

This sure sounds pornographic to me. Since when has the V word and sex tips become mainstream available right at the check out lane. No black cover just for our young girls and boy to see at the grocery lane.

Our girls are bombarded with the same message by the media, let's review:

Pop stars: Lady Gaga, read this She's way worse than Madonna ever was. They all tell the kids the same thing, sex is great and do it with whoever and wherever. When was the last time you saw a music video, I'll recap orgy's, sex and more sex. It's not the same MTV (except if your watching Taylor Swift she's the one exception).

The internet: have you ever checked your google searches. An innocent word can bring up porn. Most kids get Internet on their phone. My teen has seen all kinds of things at school on other people's phones. Youtube is a kids favorite. Does your child have a computer in a public space or a private one with Internet in their room. Have you ever checked their Internet history. It's porn at their fingertips. I'm not even going into sexting.

TV: The most popular network TV shows are :Glee (features openly gay characters and shows making out of same sex, not to mention the complete disrespect of adults by minors) Modern Family (A happy gay couple raising a child, a young sexy mom married to an unattractive older man, and a dysfunctional heterosexual couple (the only natural couple is a mess go figure) America's Got Talent (has recently brought on Howard Stern as a judge, that was considered a family show that has gotten edgier each season from a little opera star to a male pole dancer in drag) Let's just say The Bachelor looks family friendly compared to these shows.

With all the forces against us how are we to raise good moral girls? Even if your a mother on the more liberal scale do you want your daughter sexually active at a young age with multiple partners? The media world says it's ok. If it feels good do it. Don't think your elementary girls don't see this too. Moms, were not stupid

Your daughters and sons are in your home need the moral compass to be set. If you don't tell them the truth and be open look what the world will tell them. It might be hard and you WILL have resistance but it's your responsibility. God intrusted YOU to raise your kids. Even if you avoid the consequences now you will be held accountable at some point.

Moms, we must put a stop to the smut and teach our girls they are beautiful and worthy. They are not sex toys and objects. The world wants a baseball or basketball to have more purpose then our daughters to these young boys.

I found a wonderful site to help do something. Check out Project inspired.

MOMS I KNOW YOUR OUT THERE!!! Church attendance is up and so many proclaim to be Christian. Please raise your voice and teach your daughters right. Don't think your daughter isn't involved and doesn't see this. She does it's EVERYWHERE!

You can do it, spend some time in quiet reflection and think about what you say and do. Who does your child spend the most time with. Do they have the same ideals, rules, expectations.

Think about it and say a little pray for your eyes to be open and for God to give you the graces you need to be a good mother. Most of all love your children and show them pure love.

Raising Children Today

A sweet friend of mine forwarded me this post. If you have daughters and you feel like it's you against the world read this.

I don't post a lot about my oldest daughter. I try to protect her from the cyber world. You see she doesn't have a cell phone or even a Facebook. She's the odd girl out. We try hard to preserve her innocence and childhood as long as possible. I'd rather her call friends on the home phone. Facebook is well, just a place for kids to slander one another. I choose to protect her from these negative things. Remember our role of parent is one of leadership and not one of "well my kids want it".

Having younger siblings help her stay young. She loves to play with them. We get many comments from friends and family about her babysitting the younger siblings. People always seem to say "What does she think about that or does she enjoy babysitting?"

I don't say much when people asked because it stumped me for a while.

My answer is she's she enjoys babysitting and spending time with her siblings and they adore her. The other part a little harsh of my answer is she's 14 years old she doesn't make the decisions in our house. Our life does not revolve around anyone ONE person it revolves around our entire family. Each person's needs are equally important and we weigh all needs when making a decision.

We each have roles and responsibilities in this large family. I think it's important to make things work. We have chores to do and we don't get money for it. We teach our children that the responsibilities in a family are shared. We shouldn't expect to get something for helping out. It's just what a family does. How do you think a family back 100 years ago did it? Only today we have entitlement issues.

We make decisions based on the whole not the individuals. In my opinion as it should be. This is opposite in today's society. But then again so is having 4 children and thinking about adding a 5th.

Our family is so very rich in love. We spend time together and enjoy each persons qualities and abilities. I can't tell you how many times we laugh so hard we cry. That is joy to me.

We pray and read the Bible together. Our children learn our faith and know Jesus through our family.

The world has become a dark place. Young teens are surrounded by such immoral things. We as a family feel called to be the "light" in the world. We don't give into things because everyone else it doing it.... actually we do the complete opposite because usually that is the "right and Christlike" thing to do.

So what's my point? This has nothing to do with frugal jen. I felt moved today to share my thoughts about raising kids in this world. Sometimes we feel alone in our thoughts and we aren't alone. Many time others would stand if only someone would stand up first.

I hope this doesn't come off as a negative post. You know tone is so hard to read in writings. I love having a large family and I love my family the way it is. I was an only child so this has been a challenge but it's one that is very rewarding! I love my family!